westsider

Originally posted by ryan_wkm at 2005-9-11 01:31 PM:
我早排識左我表姐(佢係我阿姨個女.......

If you like her and you're having a good time, don't worry too much about other things. Your family's not gonna like it, but hey, she's not your sister or something.

It is ultimately an economic question, do you value how other people would look at you more, or do you value having a good time more.

Personally I would go for the good time. It's my own life and I'm gonna live it my way.

westsider

another thing is that you should make sure she's really treating it as a real relationship.

Some of my (non-Chinese) friends slept with their cousins, but those are only a fu(k-friend relationships.

westsider

Originally posted by ryan_wkm at 2005-9-11 03:19 PM:
但係屋企人方面........

It's your own life, and it doesn't hurt your "屋企人" in any way.

Do what is best for yourself, and you don't have to tell the "close minded" people about it.

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westsider

You don't have to tell them, just like you don't tell them how much sex you've had.

you have to pick your time.

Just like any other relationship, you need to fortify the relationship before telling anyone. If not, you're just opening up for whoever that would attack you. In particular, long-D relationship is very fragile, so wait until you 2 settled down at the same place geographically.

The most important thing is that you should only tell them if they're "open minded". Test the water; there is no point telling them if they wouldn't accept it.

westsider

no.

But whatever you do in this world, there's always a bunch of close-minded people trying to make your life miserable if you don't do things their way.

westsider

Originally posted by YUEN_LOUIS at 2005-9-11 05:03 PM:
屋企人一定反對~
你阿媽同你阿姨由姊妹變親家,好難接受

Well I know of a lesbian from a very traditional Chinese family. She's living her own happy life with her partner. Nothing wrong with it.

I also know an European guy from a really racist family. He's living with his Korean girlfriend. Nothing wrong with it.

You don't have to let them know if they're gonna feel bad. Just let everybody do their own thing.

westsider

Originally posted by 雅仔仔 at 2005-9-11 11:53 PM:
e d叫唔叫亂倫?

Cousins are not in the immediate family.

We are all under Adam and Eve's family tree. So you might as well say that everyone 亂倫.

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